I have 2 children with my ex wife and have child support taken directly from my pay and deposited into her checking account each month. I have been divorced for just over 3yrs now and am remarried. My current wife has 2 children that I legally adopted and they are 4 & 5 yrs old. My current wife and I work full time and I am also finishing up Nursing school. It takes everything we have to make it. Unfortunately when I was going through my divorce I never got a second opinion on the agreement from a lawyer and being the nice guy that I am, signed off on the papers. My ex and I used the same lawyer to save money on the divorce. At the time, it was what I would consider an amicable divorce. In the papers it says that I am responsible for child support in addition to half of any school fees and any other activities such as sports etc. We live in KY and yes we have all of our teeth and wear shoes. My ex wife is remarried, makes really good money and lives in a big home. We have joint legal custody which means our kids live with her, I am supposed to have them every other weekend, and I should have a say in what my kids do. She does not include me in any decision in the activities our kids take part in but I am still responsible according to court papers to pay for half of the activities. This is just too expensive for me and I think she knows it but she always sends me emails and text messages with amounts and asks when she can expect a deposit for my half. I use to just fork over money but have recently realized that it’s ridiculous and stopped doing it. I even consulted with a lawyer and showed him a list of activities that she sent me and he even said I was getting ripped but advised it may be difficult to change since it is in my divorce agreement and I signed off on it. Stupid me!!!! I have not seen my kids in a while and believe they do not like coming to see me because my current wife and I are on a strict budget and live a simple life without a lot of entertainment. My ex gives our kids, who are 10 & 12 yrs old, whatever they want and lets them do pretty much whatever they want too. Granted they are good kids and do well in school, and I am not against letting kids take part in sports and activities. I still think there should be a limit and a line drawn and folks should live within their means. My ex even tried once to get me to sign off and let my daughter change her last name to her step dad’s name and I refused. She stated that if I would do it that she would never ask me for anymore money outside of regular child support payments again. I love my kids but think my ex is a controlling money hungry person and that is partly why we are divorced. I also think she may be influencing our kids not to come around me. I had my child support lowered just this past year due to the fact that she makes so much money and the monthly amount was killing me. My lawyer advised I could have child support services review the figures since it had been 3yrs since the initial divorce. He was right because they did lower it and it did help some but now my ex keeps nagging me about money for this and that outside of my regular support payments and brings up the fact that it is in our divorce agreement. Is there anything I can do to get this changed? I’m doing the best I can until I graduate from Nursing school in the Spring and hope to have a better job however I still don’t see why I should have to pay extra outside of child support when the support that I pay is quite enough. She drives around in a new convertible BMW while I live in a modest home, drive a modest vehicle and live on a strict budget. I also miss my kids. I try to communicate with them via emails, texts, vm and even facebook but get little to no response. I’m at my wits end. I really hate this whole divorce thing but love my kids.